by Hannah Keeley
Blair is back with me for today’s Marriage Monday!!!
Today is a good one. Blair and I are getting real and raw with you. We wanted to share strategies that work for us when something in our environment sets us off.
That leads me to this question, what do you do when something happens in your environment? It makes you frustrated. You get angry, and you just want to get emotional, and unfortunately, when you’re in a marriage, you sometimes explode at each other. So how are you going to stop that? Let’s talk about it!
Look, I’m a mom, you’re a mom, and our job can be hard at times. But that doesn’t allow us a free pass to blow up at our husbands when they say or do something that throws us over the edge.
We know that when we are exhausted, our emotions can be fragile. That’s across the board; Male or female.
One of the ways we can become more aware of how we choose to respond to difficult situations is, be aware that when you’re tired, you need to step outside yourself and say, “Okay, I’m going to take a little extra measure to be kind right now, to be patient, to be understanding, to be loving. I’ve got to make it an intentional thing because it’s not going to come naturally.”
Remember this: People snap at each other, not because they’re angry at each other, but because they are angry at a situation that they just had in their life. We are all guilty of doing it.
What you’ll learn:
• When you are tired you are emotionally fragile.
• We’re only as good as our health can carry us.
• Strategies on how not to blow up and react.
• Reacting vs. Responding.
• Awareness is huge!!!
• You have total power over your emotions!
• Ways to encourage open communication with your spouse.
“Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.”
Do you want to know a very, very powerful thing, but it’s a scary thing to do? Having the guts to go to your spouse and say, “What can I do better when these situations happen? Who would you like? Who do I need to be for this situation? Do you see me needing areas of growth, and needing areas of improvement, and where do you think I am most challenged?” It is not an easy thing to do, I am not saying that. However, I believe 100% it can and will open the door to healthy communication between you and your spouse.
Here is your challenge:
– Be open and honest with your spouse. I mean 100% open and honest. Learn how each other responds to difficult situations.
It is a very disarming thing to talk about, “How can I be better at this? How can I be better for you?” It is not an easy thing to do, I am not saying that. However, I believe discussions like those hold the power to healthy communication between you and your spouse.
We really want you to be strong in the hard times. It’s easy to be strong in good times, but we want you to be strong when things aren’t so good. And it happens.
But you can choose. You can choose to love, always. That’s a non-negotiable.
We want to continue this discussion over at The Marriage Kitchen. It is our 9-week online marriage course that Blair and I designed specifically for you! Get inside, and let’s start transforming your marriage. We love you guys and we got your back! Be blessed like crazy 🙂