I've seen way too many marriages become stale over the years. And I have to admit, Blair and I have to make a conscious effort to keep fanning that flame. But it's SOOO worth it! Every effort you put in to improving your marriage is going to be worth it ten times over. But, the danger lies in that you aren't always aware of those destructive habits that can sneak in your marriage and slowly destroy it.

Fortunately, Willard F. Harley, Jr (author of His Needs; Her Needs) has written another excellent book on marriage. It's called Love Busters:Protecting Your Marriage From the Habits That Destroy Romantic Love. And guess what--I'm giving away a free copy this week! All you have to do is leave a comment and you'll be entered to win. Yippee! Three cheers for red-hot marriages!

In this book, he talks about six love busters in particular:
* selfish demands
* disrespectful judgements
* angry outbursts
* dishonesty
* annoying habits
* independent behavior

I love the way Willard compares marriages to fishing nets. He talks about two different fishermen. One fisherman never cleans the debris out of his fishing net. Eventually, it's so full of junk that he can't catch any more fish. He eventually just cuts the net loose because it's not working for him. Another fisherman vigilantly cleans out his net of debris after he fishes. Each time he casts his net, it's clean and ready to go. He's able to catch enough fish to support him and his family.

Love busters (those destructive habits in our marriage) can sneak in when we least expect it. Good marriages are constantly cleaning them out when they surface. Bad marriages let them persist until eventually, their marriages aren't working at all. You can clean out your marriage from all those pesky love busters...and this book will definitely help out!

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misheeld@gmail.com says

Love your site. A God breeze fo a Mama like me. This book is the right topic at the right time

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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Caxgaseheetex says

Looks like a great book to get us back on track. 13 year anniversary this week. This would be a great anniversary present to me!

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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rochie13 says

Would LOVE to win this book!!!

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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SarahT says

I would love to win this book. Looking at the topics, I already see an area I need to work on.

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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kayakqueen says

This sounds like a book I need. I've recently begun to wonder what happened to my marriage. I feel like my husband and I are roomates sharing domestic chores and child care. Between work and our special needs child and his issues and raising our younger child, it's hard to find time for each other. I know we need to work on it, but it seems that we argue or criticize each other, more than supporting each other. We did manage an hour and a half of together time yesterday--we ran an errand and then took a walk together---sadly, we said less than ten words during that time. We need this book. . . please, Hannah.

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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harleymickeybabe says

I need this book...some of those "busters" are sneaking into my marriage and a I would love to read this book and find out how to clean out my "net".

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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Sara_Gallagher says

Would LOVE to win this book!

I've read Harley's other book, His Needs, Her Needs and thought it was fantastic. The Marriage Builders website also has lots of great information.

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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TonyMontac says

I currently have one of his books checked out from the library. I am loving it! The one I have talks about the "irresistible wife" and the "irresistible husband." I read that part to my husband yesterday and told him how I really feel that hits the nail on the head, for me anyway. My husband seemed to agree. I would love to read more of his books. I have 5 children, and I plan to share this with them to help them when they are ready to choose a mate and prepare for marriage. I'm always looking for "good" information for myself and my family. Thanks!

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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phoward336 says

What a great sounding book - I'd love to read it.

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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erica says

As much as I would love this book, I hope that kayakqueen wins! It can be a very lonely feeling when you and your spouse aren't talking. Any of us that have been married for years have more than likely experienced it...Hang in there!!!
P.S. Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs helped save our marriage several years ago!!

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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says

Hi Hannah. One thing I've learned after being married for 20 years is that you should never stop trying to improve your marriage.

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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says

This sounds like such a great book, I'd love a copy!

06/12/2011 at 02:26 am

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