Posted: Aug 16 2010
It was so much easier before the kids came along. You didn't have to worry about barricading your door or muffling the screams of pleasure. But here you are with little ears, little eyes, and little bodies running and crawling through the house. Although the days of groping each other on the staircase or slamming down on the kitchen counter my be temporarily behind you (there are always babysitters and summer camp), you can still carve out special time to enjoy intimacy.
Sex on the Fly: There is nothing like a quickie in the closet to release tension and to make your husband thank the sex gods that you married him. You can even surprise him by slipping off your panties underneath your skirt, making sure the kids are happy and occupied, and then telling him you need him to check out a leak in the bathroom. After you get him cornered, lock the door and attack.
Date Night: You and your husband should enjoy regular evenings together. Even if you don't get all dolled up and go out dancing, you can still turn off the TV, break open a bottle of wine, and enjoy each other after the kids have gone to bed. If you do get the opportunity to go out on a date, throw in some spice by kissing and touching him before you even get out of the car at the restaurant (during dinner, you'll be thinking about getting a piece of chocolate cake for dessert; he'll be thinking about getting a piece of something else).
Turndown Service: Don't let sleep sneak up on you! Take as many measures as possible to ensure that the two of you are going to bed at the same time, with books closed and the television off. Leave the ratty old t-shirts for craft projects. Wear something sexy to bed or, better yet, nothing at all. Your husband will love the surprise of climbing into bed and finding your naked body waiting there for him.
Wake-up Service: Here is another opportunity that many of us fail to take advantage of. Okay, morning breath may be an issue, but your body will feel so good within a few minutes of lovemaking that you won't care if he licked the toilet beforehand. And don't forget about those still moments in the middle of the night when you wake up the get a drink of water or settle a child down into bed. Wake up your husband for some quiet sex.
The important thing about finding opportunities for intimacy is to get your priorities straight. Watching television or getting caught up with your scrapbooking may be easier, but it is not going to build a happy and healthy marriage. Seek moments throughout the day and night to be intimate with your husband and watch as the sparks fly!